The Secret of the Mega-Successful
How do the mega-successful become so successful? The secret is easier than you think.
There are many leaders who work hard to grow and succeed. And when I say leaders I’m talking about people who lead organizations, lead teams, lead communities, lead at home or lead your own life — no matter your title, your number of connections, what other people call you — you are a leader.
Leaders work hard to succeed and grow by pushing themselves and trying hard only to find they feel burnt out and unfulfilled.
Do you ever feel like there are some weeks where you can’t even remember what happened between Monday and Friday? It was such a rushed routine that it just faded into the distance. You wake up on Friday and think, “What day is it? How did I get here? Did another week go by already?”
Many leaders are facing authentic crises like marital problems, deep depression, anxiety, full-body burnout, adrenal fatigue, addiction and without trying — create toxic cultures around them.
Most leaders’ first reaction to a problem is to try to find the solution. What can I or someone else do differently, better, harder, faster?
You look for ways to improve yourself, improve others or learn something to fix it. You want steps to make the problem go away. You get super busy fixing the problem.
In reality, you are so busy fixing the problem you become overwhelmed with work. The process isn’t sustainable and often what you are trying to become isn’t what you really want.
Secret: without willingness, there is no change.
There is a completely different way to support your own growth and change. If you feel unfulfilled, burnt out, or stuck and are wondering why you haven’t changed yet — the answer is you are not willing to change.
You can put in all the effort you want but without willingness there is resistance and all your effort will leave you feeling busy, not present, self-critical, overwhelmed, burnt out and stuck.
When you are genuinely willing to do something then you are probably already doing it — you are motivated.
Tapping into your willingness is a huge leverage point for you to identify what you really want in life. It’s also the very beginning of identifying your unique Zone of Genius.
You can create willingness to change by using the change formula, the one way to truly create sustainable lasting change and solutions to problems.
The change formula states in order to create successful sustainable change, you need to have a vision multiplied by discomfort and add in support.
You start by creating a vision of what you want to change. This vision has to be clear, specific and so compelling that it lights your body on fire. You are filled with creative energy — you are turned on by it — it motivates you.
If your vision isn’t filling you with energy and excitement then you will not change.
Next, you need discomfort. We prefer to be comfortable — it feels safe.
If you are able to create discomfort, make yourself really uncomfortable, then you will be willing to do what is needed to remove the discomfort. You will be motivated to change.
Coaches help you to become more uncomfortable by challenging you to see things you don’t want to see. Find creative ways to substantially increase your discomfort surrounding your issue.
You now have a motivating vision and are super uncomfortable — this is a mighty force to help you become willing to change.
The final piece to being willing to change is support. Support can come in any form but the most useful form of support is from other people.
Your ability to successfully create the change you want is greatly increased when you include someone else in your process. With support, you become more self-aware, safer, calmer, and less stressed while going through the process.
By using the change formula you will create a willingness to change and gain the results you want and have been working so hard for without success.
The biggest secret the mega-successful and mega fulfilled know is how to change and grow. They know how to change in ways that are powerful, easy, and sustainable.
The change formula is one of the tools leaders can use to create this change.
For more detailed information on the Change Formula check out the following podcast episodes:
The Secrets that Transform your Life
The Change Formula — Why Self-Help Books Aren’t Working for You
Originally published at https://caneel.com.
